I don’t believe hookup culture has infected our brains and turned us into soulless sex-hungry swipe monsters. It doesn’t do to pretend that dating in the app era hasn’t changed. Tinder arrived in 2012, and nipping at its heels came other imitators and twists on the format, like Hinge (connects you with friends of friends), Bumble (women have to message first), and others.Older online dating sites like OKCupid now have apps as well.“The stakes were higher, you had to be really sure that you liked that person and were willing to take the risk, therefore the reward was much sweeter and the risk, sometimes worth it,” she says.“Those days are gone now that matches are instantly won, lost and unmatched and a catalogue roster of willing victims await when things don't go precisely the way one might want them to play out.
Right or not Online dating is frustrating to say the least.Here's an example of an email I received from a client: Virginia, I have been online dating for 3 years on 4 different sites, and I can't get a date!I give my number when they ask, and then they don't call 90% of the time. I am spending so many hours on the internet, or texing those guys, and I never meet any of them. I am so tired of online dating, because for me is a waste of time!“I think you have to have a thick skin and be prepared for rejection and to reject people - you're meeting someone based on their photos and their texting small talk (people have longer to compose and think through a message unlike in real life).” Despite the negative feelings some have towards dating apps and websites, there is no doubt that they are here to stay for the meantime.Technology is ever evolving so these inventive ways of finding people to date are unlikely to diminish.Don't make the Internet dating mistakes that most women make -- the mistake of giving up.